Just Don’t Quit (Newsletter Vol 2 Issue 2)

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(Tools and Tips for Intentional Living)

Volume 2 Issue 2, October 26, 2009
Just Don’t Quit
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Enough Already!
Just Don’t Quit
Recommended Resources
Contact Me
About this Newsletter

Enough Already!

We all have times when we feel overwhelmed or exhausted from our efforts, and think the answer is to quit. I must confess, fall has been particularly challenging for me. I had planned to be busy with projects, but not with the multitude of unexpected challenges added to my life (e.g., hit and run car accident, confrontation with a neighbor, leaky windows, and broken bed, to name just a few).

I wrote this article before things got particularly difficult. (Interesting, eh?) I find as I review it now, that I feel less overwhelmed, and I am inspired to get back to work. I hope you find it helpful as well.

Have a great day!

Lori Howard
Life, Career, and Business Coach
Your Coach for a Better Life!

Just Don’t Quit

At some point in the pursuit of your goals and dreams, your success will be contingent on a single moment. In that moment, you will be very tempted to give up and quit. You may grow weary from working hard and not yet seeing the results you want. You will question if all the work is worth the outcome, if you’ll even reach the outcome you desire.

I see evidence of this in my own life, as well as in the lives of my clients. After you visualize your dream, set your goals, and map out your plan, you find yourself down and dirty in the day to day work. It can be discouraging to be working hard and not see the desired outcome. One of my client calls this “Spinning Wheel Syndrome.” Like the hamster on the wheel, you feel like you are working hard, making the wheel go round, while getting nowhere. When you are down in the trenches, doing the work, and not seeing the results you want, you will be tempted to lose faith and simply quit. Odds are, you have already experienced this in some area of your life. There are plenty of things we try and fail, because we decide it just isn’t worth the effort.

But when talking about your dreams, I want you to hold fast. Don’t let go. Don’t give up. Don’t quit. Dig down deep and keep going. It’s supposed to be hard. Hard is where we learn and where the learning sticks. (If you want to learn more about what happens when we learn, read The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle) Don’t confuse difficult with impossible. As M. Scott Peck says in his book, The Road Less Travelled, “Life is difficult.” The key to your success will be in defining this moment.

So how do stay motivated and focused?

1) Put your eyes back on the prize. Refresh your vision for your dream (for help, see How to Re-Ignite Your Passion or Ideal Day exercise), review your goals and your plan. Take a step back, and remember what the real goal is: what it looks like, feels like, sounds like, tastes like, and smells like.

2) Avoid “Negative Nancy’s” of the world for a few days. You know who they are. This can be as simple as avoiding the news, including the headlines (TV, newspaper, and online). Or rescheduling lunch with that co-worker or sibling for another week. Give yourself a reprieve from those in your world who overflow with a lack of hope, and see only possibility of failure.

3) Keep taking daily action (next tiny step after next tiny step – as described in the free report, Five Days to Goals That Inspire You). Even if you feel like quitting, take a small step a day. Being in action can shift your perspective. And even if that doesn’t happen right away, you’ll still be closer to your goal. Being inactive simply keeps you stuck.

4) Solicit support from your support system. Go to those who encourage you (not the ones who challenge you) – and ask for support. Tell them you’re feeling discouraged and need some bolstering. It is sometimes easier to keep going when you are not alone. Ask for help.

5) Read about others’ journeys – those who are farther along the path than you. Read others’ stories of challenge and success. Take comfort in knowing that someone out there understands how you feel right now. Take inspiration from others who’ve been where you are, and found a way to move through. (For inspiration read this blog belonging to one of my clients.)

6) Contact your coach – if you don’t have one, get one! (To find out more, check out my web site: www.coachforabetterlife.com.) One of the things a good coach does is encourage and support you. A good coach helps you see possibility and focus on the positive. She (or he) will help you tap into your own energy and motivation – and keep you moving.

What is your goal? How badly do you want it? Use that desire to fuel you to take the steps you need. At some point in your journey, persistence will be the key to your success.

Still feeling stuck? Share your struggle at my blog, and seek help from others. Made it through? Please share your story to inspire others. Post your thoughts below!

Recommended Resources

I have a new blog – with practical tips and insights specifically for Job Seekers. Check it out at getabetterjob.wordpress.com.

I love brain science. I may not always fully grasp the details – but I am definitely a brain science enthusiast. So if you’re at all interested in how we become skilled at things, and how we learn, I recommend this book to you: The Talent Code by David Coyle.

Contact Me

I welcome your feedback, comments and questions. Also, if you’re interested in contributing to this Newsletter, email me your submissions.

Tell me what you think about this newsletter by posting a comment below.

website: www.CoachforaBetterLife.com
blog: CoachforaBetterLife.wordpress.com
email: Lori@CoachforaBetterLife.com

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